最近又在和朋友争论有关“执着”的课题。
执着,根据最新汉语大词典,指固执或拘泥,也指坚持不懈。
对我来说,执着并非是件坏事。有时候的执着,会换来我们一直想要的梦想。当然,太极端的执着,不但让自己辛苦,也让身边的人遭殃。怎样的执着才适合,就要看你本身对事情的看法了。要不要选择执着,关键在于,你懂不懂在这当中找到一条平衡线。何时该放手,何时该执着,我想,不同的人,就会有不同的答案。最重要的,别把自己的痛苦建立在别人的快乐上。自己选择去执着,又何苦要身边的人也一起受罪呢?
选择执着,有时真的无法控制,只是知道事情是无法以执着就能找到答案,如果是我,我会慢慢放开。可能没办法得到完美的结局,但仔细想一想,我不会有遗憾,至少,我曾经付出我的执着。
有些事,我曾经选择执着。有些事,有我想要的结局;有些事,找不到尽头。
其实,我想这位朋友也说得对。“何谓执着?何谓不执着?”这个问题,没办法找到答案。毕竟,不是每件事都能用对错去衡量。
不想执着于寻找答案,所以到截稿为止,答案仍是谜。
这一次,我选择不执着。
4 条评论:
There are parts of life that are "black" and "white". For all the other parts in between, I call them "gray". Sometimes, what seems like a sure "white" or "black" to someone, seems "gray" to others. and it is these "gray" things that we have to make tough decisions with. I used to envy others who can make fast decisions with "gray" matters. But now, I just wonder how many of those decisions return in regret? I cannot offer a solution to these things, no one can. But this is what we are in the first place - uncertain. It is all because there are never completely guaranteed things or events in life that makes life the more interesting as it is. As troublesome that they seem, they remind us time and again: sometimes, we have a choice.
很哲学性,搞得我也不懂如何回应你。
争来争去争执着?
无聊
这不是无聊,我相信每个人都有执著的事情,我不相信你没有。
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